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Life Adventures: annoy the fire out of this caregiver

By : | 18 Comments | On : November 13, 2018 | Category : Blogging, discoverwp, Heart, Soul, Life and Care-giving, Life, Internet, and Pass-Times, Passion, Writing

 

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Summer 2016

 

Midlife is a strange age to approach. You realize just the sort of things that can annoy the fire out of you. First of all, I love to fish and be outdoors. Winter keeps us stuck indoors. Sure there are lots of chores to do and foods to cook but you are still stuck inside for days or weeks. Annoying to say the least. 

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Secondly, it is being so young and having a Spouse that is sick. Although I never regret any moment of being a caregiver, I do tend at times to get annoyed that there is a man in my condo 24/7 but I mostly do everything alone. There are no adult nights out, just me seeing a movie at the theater and returning to home. No trips down south just to tell the world goodbye for a couple nights. Takes so much to load the vehicles up these days.

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Third things that seem to annoy me more and more at this age is not being able to be still and meditate as when I was younger. There once was a time I could send the family on their way out into the world and sip my tea and Be Still. Life just does not seem to have that door open lately. If you do care given for a spouse, especially a difficult type of patient your me time becomes very valuable to you even if it is just to watch a movie uninterrupted.   
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Last but certainly very important is difficult people. They show up in Friends, Family, and other parts of a life. I really do thank God for showing me how not to act through some of these types of people. I would not want someone to be hurt or feel hurt the way difficult people have made me feel. 

Let us review:

  1. Being an avid outdoor fan; it annoys me that winter keeps us stuck inside
  2. Entering my 50’s as a caregiver to the spouse instead of enjoying retirement annoys me
  3.  Not always having me time annoys me and not being allowed to express those feelings
  4. Difficult people> I would not want someone to be hurt or feel hurt the way difficult people have made me feel. 

 

 

 

 

via Daily Prompt: Realize

Comments (18)

  1. posted by Susan Good on January 15, 2017

    I especially like: I have learned from difficult people in my life…how not to behave. I am just like you in that regard. And I like the silence of the day as much as the silence of the night. I am a very gregarious woman but find I have no time for people that do not make my heart sing. Period. It is very refreshing. Thank you for your post.

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    • posted by newlifeduringmidlife on January 15, 2017

      You are so welcome. I too am a very gregarious woman, guess that is why I enjoyed being a waitress in my younger days. Now during Midlife if as you said a person does not make my heart sing, I rarely get sad if they walk away.

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  2. posted by Misty Meadows Homestead on January 31, 2017

    Thanks for you stopping by my blog and following. I appreciate it! And, because you did, I found this awesome post! Hope you visit again soon. I know I’ll be back! Take care! Misty

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    • posted by newlifeduringmidlife on January 31, 2017

      Thank you also for stopping by my blog. I also will revisit your blog.

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  3. posted by pensitivity101 on November 13, 2018

    I don’t know where I am to be honest…… at 62 I’m still an under training state pensioner, my get up and go has hiked off for a while (bad cold that lingered for weeks really took it out of us), and the dog has now hurt herself somehow so we are keeping a close eye and keeping her quiet indoors so no long walks for a while.
    I am grateful though to be mobile, and my health is pretty good all things considered.
    I do like your quote about difficult people……… most are family, so we have little contact.

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    • posted by Newlifeduringmidlife on November 13, 2018

      Sorry about the pup…I don’t have any pets but know they are important to their owners.
      Thank you for visiting once again.

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      • posted by pensitivity101 on November 13, 2018

        You’re welcome. We think Maggie’s managed to twist her shoulder, but she’s resting now and we have some meds for her arthritis, bless her.

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        • posted by Newlifeduringmidlife on November 13, 2018

          I forget how old you said Maggie was, I am glad she’s resting

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          • posted by pensitivity101 on November 13, 2018

            She’ll be 14 in January.

             
          • posted by Newlifeduringmidlife on November 13, 2018

            Have you owned her the whole time? That’s a long life for a dog.

             
          • posted by pensitivity101 on November 13, 2018

            We’ve had her since she was a seven week old pup. She’s a border collie cross springer spaniel, both breeds renowned for a long life span (16 to 20 years).

             
          • posted by Newlifeduringmidlife on November 13, 2018

            I will have to look that breed up, these condo’s have rules on the size of the pet and of course some neighbors complain more than others

             
          • posted by pensitivity101 on November 13, 2018

            Maggie’s Dad was a liver and white springer spaniel, and her Mum a black and white welsh collie. She’s sleek like her mum, and weighs around 16kg now. She was one of ten, the first litter for her Mum who was 2 at the time, so being a first cross, we anticipate around 16, though we have known border collies live to 19. There are lots of pictures of her in my blog, so hopefully you can get an idea of her size. She’s not a big dog by any means, but she’s not small either, standing roughly at my knee height.

             
          • posted by Newlifeduringmidlife on November 13, 2018

            I will explore her pictures today…with hubby’s health getting worse, I might need an companion or at least get the grandson one. Thanks for all the information.
            It’s so cold here in Missouri today, I am just catching up.

             
          • posted by pensitivity101 on November 13, 2018

            So sorry about your Hubby.
            Maggie is great company, and we love her to pieces. If you are restricted for the size of a pet, these are particularly popular around us:
            https://pensitivity101.wordpress.com/2018/09/30/dogs-mine-and-theirs/
            I’m not a dog expert BTW, I just love dogs of all breeds and sizes.

             
          • posted by Newlifeduringmidlife on November 13, 2018

            Thank you very much

             
          • posted by pensitivity101 on November 13, 2018

            You’re welcome.

             

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